Don't
Give Your Heart to a Rambler: My Life with Jimmy Martin, the King of
Bluegrass (Music in American Life by Barbara Martin Stephens
(University of Illinois Press, 2017, 240 pages, $19.93/17.96) is a
tell-all memoir written in a chatty style by Martin's common-law wife
of fourteen years. I've often yearned for tell-all books about
bluegrass greats. Stephens has written one, driving me from at first
wishing she hadn't to a deeper appreciation of the life and culture
that contributed to Jimmy Martin's well-deserved reputation for
womanizing, violence, and cheapness. While the book is as much about
Stephens herself as it is about Martin, and should be read with a
critical eye toward to high probability that it's designed to shed a
positive light on the author, it will nevertheless stand as a useful
first person account of Martin's difficulties and devils as well as
the liveliness and vigor he brought to the early days of bluegrass
music.
Barbara Stephens was born in 1935 in
Memphis, TN, where her parents owned a mattress factory located in
the back lot of their home. Her grandparents owned a mattress factory
in Nashville. She was brought up in relative comfort for the time
when many fewer women were encouraged to get an education, beginning
to work early in life even to the extent of opening a lemonade stand
to sell “soft drinks to employees.” She was lovingly
overindulged, while still learning many of the business skills and
work ethic to which she attributes her later success as Martin's
manager and as a booking agent for a number of bluegrass and country
artists.
While working as a waitress in
Nashville, Barbara met Bessie Lee Mauldin, Bill Monroe's girl friend,
and through her the side men in Monroe's band, including Martin. At
that time, Monroe was well established as a major star of the Grand
Ole Opry. She first met Jimmy Martin as a customer in the restaurant
where she worked, and he commenced to pursue her almost immediately,
although it took a while for them to consummate the relationship. The
chatty style, loaded with names and events, is never quite in a
straight line, but always leads, inevitably, to Martin's lack of
taste, coarse behavior, heaving drinking, battering, and womanizing.
Stephens appears to have been both attracted and repelled by the
combination, but, in the end, finds Martin to be fatally attractive.
Jimmy Martin, seven years older than
Barbara, was born in the East Tennessee town of Sneedville, a small
town of roughly 1300 people lying just south of the Virginia border.
The town is isolated in an area with few roads and what appear to be
a line of rugged hills running from northeast to southwest, the
geographical and cultural heart of Appalachia. Seldom have two such
culturally separated people met and built a career together. Martin's
education did not, apparently, extend beyond grammar school, and he
could barely write his name until Barbara taught him how.
Despite Martin's lack of formal
education, Stephens often asserts his intelligence and savvy, however
untrained. In contrast, his partner was quick with numbers,
gregarious, pretty...and young. She was always able to find work from
waiting table to office work where she was a keypunch operator who
later became computer literate. Martin, however, always kept a tight
chain on the money and her relationships. He kept her from having
access to money, was viciously possessive, and controlling, using
physical violence to exert and maintain control. Nevertheless,
Barbara frequently holds that there were good times, and defends her
love for him, always coming back after she had left until she left
for the last time, as Martin's behavior continued to deteriorate.
Perhaps in defense as well as to
express her own independence and capability, Barbara began to book
Jimmy Martin as well as a series of other bluegrass and country
artists while bearing four children that were their own. Martin seems
to have had a not completely accounted for number of children with
other women. Meanwhile, Barbara engaged in several affairs herself,
including a long-term relationship with Bobby Osborne. She also
provides extensive detail about why the greatest failure in Jimmy
Martin's life, not ever being asked to become a member of the Grand
Ole Opry, was the result of flaws in his own character unacceptable
to Opry management, and, more specifically, a vendetta against him by
Bill Monroe. The book contains significant detail about the law suits
over Martin's estate after his death in 2005.
Barbara Martin Stephens
The Foreward to Don't
Give Your Heart to a Stranger,
written by Murphy Hicks Henry, the author of the signature book on
women in bluegrass, Pretty
Good for a Girl, comments
on the bravery it took to write a book that reveals “the feet of
clay” Jimmy Martin surely possessed. But, in addition to brave,
Barbara Martin Stephens shows herself to be a more than a survivor.
She uses the adversities in her life and her own native intelligence
to forge a life for herself, first as a booking agent for Martin and
many other performers, and later in life as a para-legal in Florida
as well as to enter into a long and successful marriage. She never
loses her love for pretty clothes, showy cars, lovely homes, good
friends, and plenty of laughter. She always maintains those qualities
the small minded and vindictive Martin tried unsuccessfully to
extinguish.
In
Don't Give Your Heart to a
Rambler: My Life with Jimmy Martin, the King of Bluegrass,
(University of Illinois Press,
2017, 240 pages, $19.93/17.96) Barbara Martin Stephens has written a
sometimes harsh portrait of her long-term “marriage” to Jimmy
Martin, during which she endured significant pain and suffering at
his hand. The book also sheds light on the lives of women in America
generally, and in Tennessee particularly, during the 1950's and 60's.
Her style is chatty, emphasizing many of the people she met and
places she went. Nevertheless, she forged a successful and happy
life, while regaining contact with her family after Martin's death.
The book stands as a testament to survival, the will to persist, and
the importance of choices in forging a life. I was provided the book
by the publisher through Net Galley. I read it on my Kindle app.
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